Let's Talk About Sex

A friend sent me a link to a video today with the message "This girl has mental problems." She does in fact have mental problems but her message is strong, real and evidence that sex is not a joke.

The truth is we all know about HIV and AIDS and every other STD under the sun. As Canadians (and Americans) we are not only fully educated but we also have easy access to condoms. You can even go to a health clinic and get them for free so there really is NO excuse not to use them. Yet people, and I mean A LOT of people, still do not wrap in up EVEN when they are with a new partner or having a one night stand.

I have always been a different breed. I have been scared of STD's and HIV since I was in elementary school...long before I was even having sex. It's so simple, put one on and reduce your chances of catching anything that someone might have. Especially when we are educated enough to know that;

-The person we are sleeping with might not even know they have anything.

-People who don't care about protecting themselves are more than likely the same people who don't see the need to test themselves regularly (or at all.)

-A person who was willing to sleep with you right away unprotected, probably will sleep with anyone right away also unprotected. Don't think that you are the exception no matter what cheesy line they throw at you.

-There is no magic pill to cure AIDS. None. Like the girl in this video states, it is your life long death sentence with no chance of parole.

One time in school we played a game in sex ed. One person was assigned HIV. We all walked around the class shaking hands. Keeping track of who 'slept' with who. Then we found out who had HIV and who they slept with, and who slept with those people and so on. I think the result was about 10 people in the class caught the HIV virus. Seeing this girl in this video claim to have slept with all those men (and woman) is extremely scary to me and should be to you. All those people she slept with unprotected then sleep with a bunch of other people unprotected who in turn do the same. If you're going to just state that this video is fake, which is very well may be, this type of thing does happen so it doesn't even matter if her story is real or fake.

I think far too many people judge people based off looks. "she looks clean" or "he's so cute he has to be fine" but the reality is that is not even close to the truth. The truth is, you cannot 'see' HIV so you have to assume it could be there ALWAYS. If you keep in mind that your partner has a chance of having HIV or any STD, you will be more likely to use a condom and protect yourself.

Then there are those people who whine and complain that they don't like condoms or even worse that their partner doesn't like condoms so they don't use them. Even when the person is basically a stranger and you have no idea what their past is like. nor do you know what the past of their past partners is like etc. You do not know who gets tested and who doesn't, no matter what they tell you they did or didn't do, you really don't know. The girl in the video states this repeatedly, the guys didn't care about even knowing that information. She really is speaking the truth. People do not ask these questions before having sex. They just want it, and it's available and so they just do it.

Sex is not a game, and HIV is not a joke. This is very real and there are no second chances. Stop playing Russian roulette with your life and with the lives of people you love. Suck it up and strap it up EVERY time, get tested and act like you are educated. Don't think it can't happen to you because it most certainly can.

Please watch the video of an angry girl with HIV. She is angry with men when she really should be angry with herself, but that's besides the point. Whether this video is real or fake it doesn't matter, the picture painted is definitely real.

It's The 1st or The 11th (All I Know is it Has a '1' in it)

Last year I spent Valentine's Day with my friends playing games in a hotel room. It was the first night I spent away from Adrian in at least 7 years. He wasn't far away or anything, just in another room on another floor with our 2 boys and his parents because it was the night before our wedding day.

As Valentine's Day approaches, so does our new anniversary, February 15th. Please don't ask me what milestone we are supposed to be celebrating because even though 2010 is our 1st wedding anniversary it is also our 11th year together.

Over the years Adrian has never really wanted to celebrate anniversaries. He always stated that until we were married it wasn't a 'real' anniversary. So this year I have rather high expectations. So high in fact that I plan to look to the sky waiting for an airplane to write "Happy Anniversary Angela, I love you" in the sky. I have been waiting 11 years to celebrate this anniversary and so it should be good right?

We briefly spoke about this topic just after the new year. I was sure to remind him ever so gently that this was the anniversary he said all these years he wanted to celebrate. Then he told me, ever so gently, that if I don't want to be disappointed I better plan it...Go figure.

Support the Cause...Not the Tata's

Are you wondering what's with the colour status updates on facebook? I was wondering too, and so I went to the only logical source to find out this kinda of information...twitter.

My tweeple were in fact discussing the odd facebook trend and just as I suspected, there was a reason for the red, whites and blacks taking over my news feed. As it turns out, the ladies of facebook were sharing what colour their girls were wearing today in support of breast cancer awareness.

I couldn't wait to play. Who can resist a facebook status game? But imagine my disappointment when I remembered that my girls were only wearing their birthday suits. Now what do I do? Lie? Run and put a bra on?

So I started thinking, why wasn't I wearing a bra anyway? Well, because I am home for one thing and no one else is here, and because wearing bras too much is not good for our boobies.

"Oh Angela, come on, what on earth are you talking about now?"

Well, I watched a doctor on TV explain once how unnatural bras really are, and how they are starting to link this to breast cancer. Now believe me, I get sick of all the cancer causing talks as much as the next person, but for once this actually made sense to me.

Our boobies are naturally made to hang free off the body, unconfined. At some point someone, probably a man, decided that they would look better harnessed and pushed up. Over time the degree of the push up has increased dramatically causing our girls to be pulled, pushed and tucked to new unnatural angles and positions that cause unnecessary aggravation deep inside our feminine tissues.

Now please, do not get me wrong, I do wear bras and do believe that have their place. But did you know some ladies will not even take theirs off for sleeping? Could you imagine wearing bras for 23 hours a day? (assuming they take it off to shower) That is a lot of confinement for such a sensitive area of our bodies, and if this is something that you subject your tata's to night after night I plead with you to TAKE IT OFF. It all goes back to the 'too much of anything is bad for you' and 'Moderation is key' and 'balance' theories. These life tactics go for EVERYTHING, including bra wearage.

When I come home my bra comes off. I will literally take off my shoes, coat and bra as I enter the door. I might put it back on if you come to visit me, it just depends who you are. A lot of people think I am crazy to walk around braless in my own house, I'm not sure why though. I wish more women would try taking their bras off when they really don't need them on.

So what did I decide to do about my facebook status?

I decided that since these colours were meant for breast cancer awareness, the best supportive choice was to simply write "none" as my status colour and I am not afraid to tell the world why.